How can I forget what he said?

I'm a believer in the fact that the things people say when they're mad, or drunk, are things they truly mean. Anger, adrenaline, frustration, and alcohol remove the filters that would normally cause us not to say these things. So, he's NOT a great man. He's settling, and will resent you for it forever. I would have left him the first time he talked crap to my face.